Fashion, Wardrobe & Image Stylist


Cultivating Your Confidence with Your Closet

Podcast Info

𝑫𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒍𝒘𝒂𝒚𝒔 𝒘𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝒃𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒌?

𝑹𝒖𝒏 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒄𝒂𝒎𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒔?

𝑫𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 2 𝒔𝒊𝒛𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒈𝒐?

Join us for a fascinating talk about our closets.  We talk confidence, style & the massive impact it has on the rest of of your life.

You will learn

  1. Getting dressed is all about feeling confident when looking in the Mirror and walking out the door.
  2. What does it really mean to dress your age?
  3. Polished and Put Together for your Personal and Professional life

Are you a Positive Reflection Type of Women?

💎She is a women in Transition…Age, Job, Baby, Weight, Widow Divorce.

💎She finds it frustrating to shop..and therefor hates to shop.

💎She does not have a sense of style for herself.

💎She would like to use accessories but finds it awkward.

💎She has not gone through her closet for 10-15 years.

💎She is afraid to part with clothing…

💎She finds it hard to wear color.

💎Her Husband or significent other feels she needs a change or a lift…

💎She is a women in a Fashion Rut, Want’s to change, but doesn’t know

𝑳𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒐𝒅𝒄𝒂𝒔𝒕 𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒗𝒊𝒆𝒘!




Reaching for Classics This Spring

When spring fashions show up online or in the stores, there’s often an audible groan. Why? At first glance, the selections can look like island party fare: sheer fabrics, jean shorts, itty-bitty slip dresses. Is everyone on vacation? Professional women looking for summer work attire feel left out.

There’s also the woman who favors clothes and accessories that are classic and elegant all year round. Women who enjoy refined and sophisticated fashion will shade their eyes from the bright colors and flashy prints and hope for better choices when fall until rolls around.

Pam in classic black and white

Pam is wearing classic black and white

If this is you, believe me when I say this: this is your bonanza year for fashions that suit your style statement. Let me give you a few examples.

Bust out in beige

Someone could look at beige and not even register that it’s a color. A woman with a refined eye can see beige and swoon—especially if that shade is good with her skin tone. A lot of designers showed head-to-toe beige outfits. Call it oatmeal, sand, or stone—it’s a color to love. Could you be new to beige? If you want to project a vibe of quiet assurance, do it in this color. If wearing it head-to-toe feels like too much, find a piece or two and wear it with your separates. You’ll quickly discover a silk blouse, trousers, dress, skirt, or trench to fall in love with.

Different colors of beige look great together.

Different colors of beige look great together.


Pam looks classy and seasonal in shades of beige.

Pam looks classy and seasonal in shades of beige.

Highlight the shoulders

Wear a blazer with structured shoulders. You can find them in black for that ultra-classic look or consider shopping for a novelty blazer that you can wear with your favorite jeans or pant style for a change of pace. The cut of the blazer, the quality fabric, and the terrific tailoring will ensure it sends the right message.

A classic black blazer creates a sleek profile

A classic black blazer creates a sleek profile

This black and white blazer creates a classic look with the black pants

This black and white blazer creates a classic look with the black pants

Dress up your jeans with a classic tweed blazer.

Dress up your jeans with a classic tweed blazer.

Add Structure to your handbag.

I’m sure you’ll notice many floppy bags this season. Keep looking and you will discover there are plenty of handbags that that have more structure to them. The briefcase is back in style, and a framed bag will look chic and polished.

There are so many options in structured handbags in terms of style and color. Buy one or two to go with your spring wardrobe.

There are so many options in structured handbags in terms of style and color. Buy one or two to go with your spring wardrobe.


We are all glad that Spring is officially here and soon the weather will be warmer.  Time to think about what new items you need to add to your wardrobe.   There are a lot of ways I can help you to make the most of your spring wardrobe.   Give me a call at 203.733.9328 or email me at [email protected] if I can help.


It’s Time to Think About Your Fall 2018 Wardrobe!

Are you ready to try some new things from the fall/winter fashion offerings?

Whether you sample one item or several, there are some tantalizing treats to choose from.

For people who’ve been wondering where brown went, it’s back! It comes in all shades of chocolate and on into burnt caramel. Time to stock your shoe and handbag shelves with this rich color or choose a few separates to blend into your existing wardrobe.

The Colors of Fall

Boot: Steve madden, Handbag: Tory birch, Shoe: Louise Et. Cie, Jumpsuit: Emmy, Necklace Bess Heitner

Floral prints just keep coming. Plan to wear floral print dresses with dark backgrounds. They’re great paired with a colored tight and a boot.Or just wear these feminine dresses to a  business function or Holiday Party.

Floral Print Dresses

Dresses are from: Sachin & Babi & LK Bennett

We grew up loving velvet. Velvet has been spanning the seasons. People even wore velvet this Spring and into the Summer. Look for it this Fall/ Winter season in dresses blouses and jackets. How do you feel about velvet shoes?



Items are from Nordstrom and Modcloth

There is an array of plaids just waiting for you to enjoy and try. Classic plaids of different colorations are being combined in the same outfit.
For instance you can wear a blue plaid pant with a red plaid jacket. Or wear a red plaid boots with a blue plaid dress. It may sound less than appetizing but you won’t know until you try it.


Plaids are from Neiman Marcus, Marc Jacobs, Brooks Brothers, Jeffrey Campbell,,   @sarabattaglia/Instagram, Imaxtree (4)

So glad that you can choose from any pant leg, width style you choose this season.  Pants of any length or width are available.
Wide, pleat front, flairs, cigarette, printed pants and painted pants.If you wear pants well, get ready for a smorgasbord.
I added just some sampling to wet your palette.


Pants are from Zara, Y.A.S.,Rachel Comey, Wrangler and Michael Kors

I hope the above ideas inspire you to select a few statement pieces for your fall wardrobe.  If you need any help just give me a call.  Looking forward to some cooler temperatures and some beautiful days ahead.


Pam in brown dress

Spring Fashion Tuneup

Pam Ready For Spring

It’s time to transition your wardrobe to spring!

We all know not to believe every weather report we hear. The running joke is that weather experts get it right about 50% of the time. In any case, I want you to feel prepared 100% of the time for whatever the day brings. Even though the calendar and the stores say it’s spring, you may not be enjoying spring-like conditions for a while. Or, one day it feels likes spring and the next day the winds are blowing and you’re pulling your collar up to guard the chill.

So below is a step-by-step guide to help you move your wardrobe toward spring even if there’s more winter weather ahead.

Step 1:  Ease Into It!

Look in your closet and pull out anything that looks too wintry. The easy pieces to spot are fur-trimmed items in dark colors, thick tweed jackets or pants, and anything thick like wide wale corduroys, heavy wool pants, bulky cable knit wool turtleneck sweaters. Put them away for next year.

Be sure you have your woolens cleaned first. One little splatter of juice that goes uncleaned could invite a moth infestation. Pack them in cedar or sachets with herbs to keep them safe over the next few months
Remove dark winter clothes from your closet

Step 2: Minimize the Darkness

Escape the winter doldrums by changing your color palette.
Organize your spring clothes

Take out all the dark colors that seem gloomy to you right now. Place them on your bed and now look into your closet again. Are there enough lighter or brighter colors in warm pieces that will get you through the next month? If not, put back a few dark pieces, ones that are neutral and less season-specific like a cashmere sweater you could wear in May if you need to.

Step 3:  Lean on Your Layering Pieces

Even though there still may be a cold snap or two, respond with multiple layers like flat knits, quilted vests, and scarves. Pull out your cotton or silk scarves and start wearing them in place of your wool ones.

Blue silk scarf


Some other wardrobe tricks include wearing a buttoned up cardigan over your blouse and under your blazer. If it starts to warm up in the day, remove the cardigan or the blazer. You’ll still look dressed for the day.
Bring a blazer for when it's cool

Wear a V-neck sweater over your dress so it looks like you’re wearing a skirt and a sweater. Add a silk twill scarf at the neck. If you get warm during the day, remove the sweater and the scarf and you’re back to wearing the dress by itself.

Or wear a button down shirt over your top.  It can be unbuttoned or even removed if the temperature climbs.

Light spring colors

When possible start using your trench coat with the quilted lining instead of your heavy wool coats. Take the lining out when it warms up.
Pink Trench Coat

Step 4:  Break into Your Spring Stash

Pull out any long-sleeved cotton or silk knit tops. Start using these under cardigans or swing jackets. While you’re at it, bring out a couple of spring dresses that you can pair a sweater. Or wear lighter shades of denim like rolled up jeans and ankle boots.

Your jean jackets can be worn over maxi skirts or dresses.
Jeans jackets go anywhere today

Step 5:  Contact Me!

If you’re sick of what you’ve been wearing for the last few months, it may be difficult to make decisions on your own or strategize your way into spring/summer but there is hope.

I’m here to help make those decisions with you and set you up for a wardrobe you’re happy with right now. Shoot me an email and we’ll get started.


Happy Mother’s Day to all the mother’s out there!
Wishing you all a day of flowers and fun filled family time!

Flowers for Mother's Day

How to wear prints and patterns!!

In my career I know that it is not unusual for women to shy away prints and patterns. The more color the more pattern the scary it is to try. Some people hesitate wearing prints because it seems difficult or mysterious. Yet wearing them can be so pleasing to you. Let me answer a few questions about prints so you can start wearing them with confidence.

Can petites wear large patterns?
Traditionally it’s been said that petite women should wear small prints. I disagree with that. Clothing always has to be in the right proportion but within that proportion can exist a patterned skirt or top that is larger scale if the woman has large-scale features (eyes, nose, mouth), a booming personality, or is a rule-breaker by nature.

Petites in Patterns

Is there a bold print for everyone?
Not necessarily. However, I have had clients who never thought they could wear a bold print and then when I had them try some on, they absolutely fell in love with the look. So be adventurous. You may think you know what will work best but prepare to be surprised.

bold prints


How do I wear two different stripes in the same outfit?
As an example, consider wearing a stripe combo this way: Pair a narrow blue striped oxford shirt with a wide-leg waist pant in large navy and powder blue stripes.The scales of the stripes are different in each. That difference is what makes mixing stripes successful.


Fun with stripes

How do I choose the right leopard print?
Start with the color. You may already know whether it’s more flattering for you to wear cool colors or warm colors. With that knowledge as your guide, look for a leopard print that follows that same formula. A leopard print could be in shades of gray and black, which would be great for someone with cooler coloring. A leopard print in camel and chocolate brown would better serve someone with warm coloring.


Is Leopard for You?

Can I mix a floral print with a plaid? 
Yes, but be sure they share one color in common. When both prints share a shade of blue, that blue is the glue that makes them pair well together. Perhaps there’s a yellow green in a floral print and a darker yellow-green in a plaid. Even though the yellow-greens aren’t matching, it’s close enough to make it work.

Floral Prints and Plaids

Why bother mixing prints and patterns?
It’s a way to really own your look. You won’t find anyone looking like you. Also, it’s a way to be artistic without paints, canvases, and sketches! You’ve taken the artistry provided by the creators of these patterns to the next level where you then create your own individual art through the magic of your combinations.
Mixing patterns

Pam Banks

I highly encourage you to make friends with prints and patterns this season.  My client Pam Banks looks wonderful in her patterned dress.  Prints and patterns really can bring you so much joy. I’d love to help you collect a handful of prints that truly work for you. I’m just a phone call away!

Do You have a Ruffle skirt hanging all the way back in your closet? It is time to REPURPOSE and have fun wearing it this spring.

Ruffled skirt

Spring Fashion on the runway brought numerous feminine shapes and designs. When wearing a ruffle skirt choose something simple on top. Let the skirt make the statement. This season you can choose any length from mini to ankle. You are the artist of your creation.


Ruffle Skirts
Ruffled skirts
I also wanted to use this occasion to wish everyone a Happy Valentine’s Day!!  I have my Husband  two beautiful granddaughters, and my son to send my love to.
Pam and Lenny


Wishing you a fabulous heart happy and heart healthy February!


Holiday Party Style Strategies

Happy Holidays!
I wish all my clients friends, and family Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year.
May this be the year that every time you look in the Mirror you say to yourself “YOU GO GIRL “

Pam sitting by Christmas tree

Holiday Party Style Strategies

You’re invited to a party or get together and you want to feel festive. What do you do? Do you rush out to the store after work to buy a new outfit? Do you leave everything to the last minute and try to pull something from your closet from things you’ve worn in past years? Do you have a meltdown and call the hostess and tell her you’re coming down with the flu?

Any one of these three strategies could bring your stress level up near the breaking point. Maybe you get mad at yourself for leaving these details to the last minute. Perhaps you think everyone else must really have it together and only you have problems over what to wear.

Ban those thoughts! Take a deep breath…that’s good…now let’s talk some style sense.
1. There’s good news, you could be more prepared than you realize.
2. By calmly looking at your options, you can get excited about the party instead of dreading it.
3. Everyone goes through fashion breakdowns but you can learn to curb yours with a few tips about how to look festive.

Are you ready to start putting together a few holiday outfits? Inspiration is as close as the fall trends you may have already added to your wardrobe. Here are three style choices to work into your fun holiday looks


Remember those velvet slacks you bought or that velvet jacket you scored this fall.  Combine either with lace and pearls and you’ve got a romantic holiday party theme.


Romantic Velvet

Pleated midi skirt.

This skirt is pretty in a print and glissens in metallic gold or silver. Either one can be a key ingredient for a night of holiday cheer.


Pleated Skirts

Wide leg pants

In satin or prints is a comfortable and in-style choice for a Holiday party. Pair them with your favorite sweater or blouse. You will certainly make a statement.


Wide Leg Pants


Wishing you and yours a wonderful holiday and a very happy, healthy and safe New Year.


Baubles and Beauty Shopping Event – Sat. Nov. 4, 2017 and Sat. Nov. 11, 2017

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Baubles and Beauty
Come join us on Sat. Nov. 4 or Sat. Nov. 11 for a relaxing shopping experience. Every attendee gets a Free Gift! Bring a friend and enjoy a mimosa with us.

Fashion accessories, makeup, skin care products, spa products and more.
Lots of reasons to not miss this event:

  • Get a start on your holiday shopping
  • Sample makeup products and find something special for you to glow at your holiday events
  • Bring your holiday outfit so we can find just the right accessories

Sat. Nov. 4:  10am – 4pm

Location:  Pam Friedlander 
23 Richter Drive
Danbury, CT.  06811

Sat. Nov. 11:  10am – 4pm

Location:  Kathryn Egenberger
15 Spruce Man Road
Danbury CT. 06810


Please RSVP: p[email protected] or 203.798.0718

Jewelry on display and Pam wearing jewelry

Incredible Colors Available to You This Fall – Part 2

This blog is a continuation of the Pantone Colors of Fall 2017.  Be sure to read both posts to decide which is your favorite color of the season.


Neutral Gray

If you love wearing Gray, it is always interesting to add a pop of color to your shoes handbag or scarf.
Even black and white adds drama to the look, as seen in the photo.

Neutral Gray

Neutral Gray Accessories

Shaded Spruce

This is my personal pick. I have always gravitated to teal blends. This color is gorgeous in shoes, boots,
handbags, overcoats, dresses and silk blouses. It is strong, beautiful, and makes a statement.

Shaded Spruce Swatch and Outfit

Shaded spruce accessories

Golden Lime

This yellow-green shade will compliment you Fall wardrobe, with necklaces, earring, scarfs, and handbags.

Golden Lime Swatch and outfit

Golden Lime Accessories

Autumn Maple

Have Fun this year with this rich vibrant, and exciting color. Don’t be afraid to mix a variety of this years
colors from Pantone into your outfit.  Pairing it with her orange tote adds some  trend to her outfit.
The Drama and excitement of this rich orange tone adds personality to your outfit. This rich vibrant color
makes a statement, when paired with your favorite black dress, slacks or dress.

Autumn Maple Swatch and outfit

Autumn Maple Accessories

Linda Eisen chose her tote to add some trend and  punch to her Red Jumpsuit.

Linda mixing colors of the fall

Have Fun In Your Closet with colors this Fall/Winter season.  Here is a reminder of all the wonderful colors you can choose from.

Pantone Fall 2017 Colors


Try a shade that works with your skin and eye color. Some colors are universal and looks good on everyone. Try something new and get out of your comfort zone.


If you need any help selecting your fall outfits or deciding which colors would work best on you – give me a call.  I would love to help you look and feel your best this fall.


Incredible Colors Available to You This Fall – Part 1

PANTONE Fashion Color Report Fall 2017

My clients are so excited for a new season. Shopping and planning for your wardrobe now will give you a good start for the Holiday season right around the corner. You will begin to notice the incredible colors available to you in the stores.

I am happy to share with you  Fall 2017 seasons color choices as introduced by
Pantone Color Institute
March 13, 2017

Here is an overview of the new fall colors.


Pantone Fall 2017 Colors

For this blog post we will review the first half of the colors.


Red is eye catching. Remember Julia Roberts in her beautiful red gown in “Pretty Women”

Scene from Pretty Woman

Genadine swatch and outfitThis years color Grenadine gives women the confidence to wear red.

Genadine Accessories

Linda Eisen looks confident and beautiful in her jumpsuit.

Linda Eisen in Grenadine jumpsuit

Tawny Port

Try a leather jacket in this rich color or even a boot. Pairing it with this years Neutral gray, in a scarf or silver jewelry will give your outfit polish and finish.

Tawny Port Swatch and Outfit

Tawny Port Boots and Bag

Ballet Slipper


This color is soft and can be added as a lovely accent to any outfit this Fall. Even the pink sneakers adds some fun and trend to your weekend attire.

Ballet Slipper Swatch and Outfit

Ballet Slipper Bag and Shoes


In this photo I paired a cotton Ballet Slipper top with this rich Marina blue vest. The pearl necklace adds a touch of Neutral Gray.

Pam in Ballet Slipper and Blue


Imagine an entire outfit monochromatic in this beautiful shade including your handbag. Remember to think texture to give your look dimension and interest.

Butterum Swatch and Outfit

Butterum Bag and Shoes

Navy Peony and Marina

I love combining and mixing and matching colors. Try these two shades together. Imagine a deep wash jean or a pencil skirt in Navy Peony with a Marina floral top. Add a handbag or shoe in these colors with silver jewelry and you have a ready to wear outfit.

Navy Peony Swatch and Outfit

Navy Peony boots

Marina Swatch and Outfit

Marina boots and bag


Check out my next blog post for the review of the remaining colors.

If you need any help selecting your fall outfits or deciding which colors would work best on you – give me a call.  I would love to help you look and feel your best this fall.


Let’s Get Ready For Fall From Top to Bottom: Accessories and Footwear

Accessories have the power to make a plain look exciting. When I visit clients at their homes, in their closets it is obvious that for many women choosing the right accessory can be somewhat frustrating. That is why I always come prepared with pieces that will work with many outfits and personalities.

-Add a scarf with fringe or a tassle this year for a touch of trend.
-Layer a variety of long and short necklaces.
-Peruse your jewelery drawer and you will find a treasure trove of pieces you have not worn in years to layer.

Pam with accessories


Getting your closet ready for the fall is not an easy task. Positive Reflections can help you prioritize and organize your closet for an updated look. It is the time of year again to put away your sandals and take advantage of boot sales.

Today boots come in many different shapes, heel heights, round toes, pointy toes, half boots, ankle boots and shoe boots . There is a boot for every personality and style. This season, pairing boots with a slim fitting dress and a great pair of tights (textured or plain) can give you a fresh new updated look.

Below are examples of what is on trend as well as comfortable, clunky, and funky styles for people on the go. Also I have included some of my own picks for fall footwear. Shopping also begins with the proper footwear for my client’s lifestyle. Remember: comfort always takes priority over fashion.


More Boots


Fall Boots



Pam's Picks


Please comment or email me, I’d love to hear your questions about your perfect fall wardrobe.